I’d like to welcome guest blogger Alex A. from My Man Happy. As a dating expert, Alex dishes her best tips about dating on the road as a single girl. Who says you can’t be wined and dined while traveling?
Alex A. has seen a lot of the world, and made a lot of mistakes. She enjoys travel, writing, and salsa dancing. She co-founded My Man Happy to share some of these stories with the rest of the world. MMH is a site dedicated towards developing the best version of yourself to maximize your happiness in life.
In 2017, the world is truly anyone’s oyster. This also includes single girls! With cheap flights, trains, boats, and other mechanisms of travel all readily available throughout most of the world, it’s never been easier to get around. Add in some of the modern-day reasons to travel (gap years, finding yourself, etc.), and it’s of my opinion that every girl should take a solo trip at some point in her life.
Of course, this comes with the usual precautions. Traveling solo is inherently more dangerous for both men and women, but especially so for females. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t have some fun ;), but you must stay safe.
If you’re a single girl on the road, you may also be tempted to check out the dating scene in foreign countries as a way of “immersing” yourself in the culture. And who better to show you some of the hidden gems than a local…who hopefully has a nice accent on top of it!
With that being said, I’ve got a few tips handy for solo female travelers. Some of them are general pieces of travel advice, and some are about dating abroad. So let’s get started.
#1: Choose Your Countries Carefully
You know how I said that I think every girl should take a solo trip during her life? Well, that does come with a caveat. I don’t think that a solo female traveler should go stay in the slums of a third world country, for example. Nothing to do with the native people of that country—I’m sure they’re wonderful—but safety first!
But please—use common sense. There are definitely countries and cities in the world that are far safer than others. Take a look into local traditions, customs, and expectations and adjust your expectations and travel plans accordingly.
It’s about minimizing risk. If you have no knowledge of the local language, and stand out in a crowd, you’re simply a higher target.
#2: When It Comes to Dating…
…have fun with it!
More than likely, you won’t find everlasting love if you’re just backpacking through Europe for a few weeks—but you can find some fun!
You might be wondering which dating apps or websites to use, or avoid. Simply put, I would recommend just using Tinder. It has enough global appeal. Almost every country has a plentiful supply of potential suitors. In addition, many people just use the app to make friends, meet fellow travelers, or just as a way to chat and find out some interesting places to go.
I recommend just putting that you are looking for someone local to hang out with, just as friends. Of course, if you go out with him and there is some chemistry—let him know! Give him the green light that you’re interested, and just see what happens. Like I said, have fun with it.
But, he may pick up on the clues faster than you think, because…
#3: Foreign Guys “Get It”
A lot of sitcoms in the western world are full of dorky nerds (The Big Bang Theory, anyone?) who couldn’t tell if a girl liked them if their lives depended on it.
In many foreign countries, you won’t have this problem with the local men—at all. They understand dating cues, signals, and are better are reading a situation than many of the guys in the western world. They won’t chicken out of trying to kiss you, but they also won’t be butt-hurt if they turn you down.
Overall, guys abroad tend to have more confidence and a better understanding of romance. So you may not have to be so incredibly obvious that you like him—there’s a good chance he’ll already know.
#4: Common Sense 101 When Dating Abroad
I feel that these need to be mentioned. Here is a quick-hitting list of things you should definitely be aware of while going out on a date in a foreign country:
Meet in a public place. Seems like a no-brainer, right? Meet him at a public place, and make sure you know where you’re going. What I mean by this is if he tells you to meet him by the main square fountain, make sure you know beforehand what comes after. Have him pick a bar or a restaurant, then Google it and make sure it’s legit. Don’t just show up to the fountain and let him walk you down an alley!
Be aware of the liquor. Many countries have their own local liquor, some of which is incredibly potent. For those of you who have tried Palinka in Hungary, or Absinthe in Prague, you know what I’m talking about. Some of this stuff is incredibly potent. A shot or two will have you stumbling around like prom night. More than likely, he doesn’t mean any harm and is probably nervous himself—but be aware of what the liquors can do before you start taking too many shots 🙂
Follow your gut. It’s there for a reason. I’m a strong believer in following your heart, but that little voice inside your head is more important at this point. If something doesn’t feel right, excuse yourself and call it a night.
Know how to get home. If he invites you to his apartment for a nightcap, and you accept—do you know how to get home? How late do the buses, trams, or the metro run? Know all this before you embark on your whirlwind romance. Of course, a true gentleman would get you an Uber or a cab. So if he doesn’t offer it beforehand, take that into consideration of whether you want to explore anything further at his apartment.
#5: Definitely Do a “Locals Date”
If a guy in Barcelona invites you to a well-known salsa club—make sure you go!
Seriously—this is a once-in-a-lifetime kind of opportunity. You’re traveling, you’re by yourself, and you’ve just been invited into what is a serious part of Spanish culture. This is an opportunity for you to make a fool of yourself, but maybe also be swept away by a dashing, risk-taking, matador kind of guy.
Listen, he knows that you probably aren’t that experienced with salsa, but he wants the opportunity to show you a bit of his country and their traditions. Those are the kind of experiences that you simply cannot get in a Hop-On-Hop-Off bus, or an Old Town walking tour.
Salsa dancing with a Spanish guy in Barcelona is one of those things that you wish you could buy on TripAdvisor as part of your vacation package—but it’ll never happen.
Therefore, if you meet a foreign guy and you get the opportunity to do something like this—GO.
I promise, you’ll never regret it. And who knows—you might even learn a couple great dance moves, too 🙂
Do you have any other quick tips that should be included here? Leave them in the comments below!